Living with Purpose: How Exploring Your Values Creates Meaningful Change
We all want a sense of purpose, a feeling that our lives align with what truly matters to us. But in the rush of daily responsibilities, it’s easy to lose sight of what gives life meaning. This is where values come in. Values serve as a compass, guiding our choices and helping us create a life that feels fulfilling and authentic.
What Are Values?
Values are not goals or achievements; they are the guiding principles that shape how we want to live. They define how we treat ourselves, others, and the world. Unlike goals, which can be checked off a list, values are ongoing and evolve over time. Living in alignment with our values fosters motivation, clarity, and a greater sense of well-being. Values work, as developed in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), emphasizes using values as a compass for meaningful action, rather than as rigid rules or obligations.
Some common value domains include (think of these as different areas of life where your values show up and help guide your decisions):
Relationships: What kind of partner, friend, or family member do you want to be?
Personal Growth: What skills or knowledge do you want to develop?
Health & Well-being: How do you care for your physical and emotional health?
Community & Contribution: How do you want to engage with and support others?
Work & Career: What makes your work meaningful to you?
Values vs. Goals: Understanding the Difference
While values provide direction, goals are the specific actions that help us live out those values. For example:
Value: Being a supportive and present friend.
Goal: Checking in on a friend once a week and planning quality time together.
Focusing on values ensures that, even if we don’t achieve every goal, we are still moving in a meaningful direction.
The Role of Therapy in Meaning-Making
Therapy can help clarify values and create actionable steps toward a more fulfilling life. When life feels disconnected or uncertain, reflecting on values can restore a sense of purpose. In sessions, we explore questions such as:
What truly matters to you?
How do your daily actions align with your values?
What small changes can bring you closer to the life you want?
By identifying core values and setting intentional goals, therapy helps bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Exploring values isn’t about rigid rules, it’s about discovering what brings meaning and direction to your life. If you’re feeling stuck or unsure about your next steps, therapy offers a space to reflect, clarify, and take meaningful action toward a life that aligns with your values.